The bad news? Life can be hard – sometimes lousy. You may have a boss you despise, believe you are a failure, and consistently feel overwhelmed.
The good news? You have CHOICES. The choice of your attitude, your actions, and your willingness to discover hope through positivity. By making the right choices, you are taking accountability.
In The Attitude Influence, there is a common theme of personal accountability. No matter what your circumstances are, you have the power to make positive changes. Here are a few steps to get you started:
1. Look in a mirror and understand that you are seeing the only person who is responsible for your success, happiness, and well-being.
2. Take the following phrases out of your vocabulary: “If only," “Why me?," “Could have," “Should have," and “Would have."
3. Be responsible for your choices – the good, the bad, and the ugly.
Trust me, I know all too well that taking full responsibility for the things that aren’t going well in your life can be difficult. It’s hard admitting that we made a mistake, used poor judgment, or didn’t perform well on a job. Habitually pointing the finger at someone or something besides yourself is the surest way to get you on the fast track to nowhere. Why? First of all, it shows a lack of integrity. Secondly, it removes your power. And, finally, it’s a misuse of your energy. Instead of using your energy to complain and be unhappy, use it to kick ass and be awesome.
I was recently involved in a very frustrating dining experience at a well-known chain– mostly because there wasn’t much dining happening. You can probably relate to this scenario – my daughter, good friend, and I waiting patiently for our meal as we witnessed the party of eight (who came in 30 minutes after us) get served and leave before we received our main course. There were reasons why we were not acknowledged for 15 minutes upon being seated, why the Asian restaurant ran out of sushi, and why our dinner had not been served timely. There was also a reason why, at one point, our empty-handed waiter zoomed past us after he assured us ten minutes earlier, he was on his way to get our meals.
Our entire check was comped that evening, yet I will be hesitant to return to that restaurant because all of those "reasons" added up and became excuses. In fact, the only offers of apology and accountability came from a young man who appeared to be a busboy/back-up server. If I do return, it will be because of him. He salvaged our experience.
I advocate for credible leadership. I also advocate for personal responsibility. It’s easy to point the finger at your boss when you think you’re too special to have your talents overlooked. I get it. I have felt that way a time or two in my career. There were times when I had to self-reflect and say, “Yep, I can do better. I’m not doing everything I need to do to get to the next level or the next opportunity.” There have also been times when I said, “That’s my sign. It is time to move on.” In both situations, I remembered my power to make a choice and be accountable for my happiness.
Are you able to self-reflect and feel good about the actions you are taking to be happier and more successful? Are you able to honestly say you have worked harder, longer, and smarter to achieve what you want out of life? Or are you still pointing the finger at the horrible boss, favored employees, and unsupportive partner?
Take back your power, hustle for the good stuff, and make a choice. Then own it.
Choose Happy –